The power of saying No.

 Whether in love, work, family, or the world, the need to say no is imperative at times. The power of saying NO is not realized by many.There is a lot of talks, and a lot to be said, for the power of yes. But No, a metal grate that slams shut the window between one's self and the influence of others, is rarely celebrated. It is not only a hidden power but it is also easily misunderstood.

 Why saying No is Important

 No is both the tool and the barrier by which we establish and maintain the distinct perimeter of the self." No" recognizes that we are the agents of our limits. An article in the "Financial Times" declares that "no" was the new "yes". The importance of saying no to your impulses is recognized now more than ever. Every time we say no to something that is not important, we are saying yes to something important.

 No says, "This is who I am, This is what I value; This is what I will and will not do; this is how I will choose to act."

 Benefits of saying No

       1. Confidence

Saying no causes you to become more confident in yourself. Every time you say no, you are taking back control of your life by not allowing others to make decisions for you, becoming more and more sure of yourself.

 

2.  The Stress Factor

Saying" yes" when you want to say" no" is a major stressor for your mind and body. it's unquestionably not the lone cause of stress, but it might be among the easiest to control.

 

3.  Getting rid of Toxic people

You don't want these people in your life anyway, do you? These are the leeches, the complainers, the one who unabashedly take advantage of you. They are master manipulators who use guilt and manipulation to pressure you into a Yes. If you consistently give a firm "no" they will eventually go away and find some other, weaker target.

 

 No is a Right, Not a privilege

 NO, it's a small word that packs a lot of power. It carries with it an invisible force. We are often taught that saying "no" is a negative thing. It's no wonder so many people are uncomfortable saying it. But the truth is when you say "no", you are not saying "I hate you," You are not being selfish or insulting someone, you are simply exercising your right to say "no". Always remember saying No is not a privilege, it is a right.

 When you say yes, when you would prefer to say no, you are, in actuality, saying no to yourself. On the other hand, when you say no when you want to say no, you are saying yes to what's important to you.

 It's not an easy task to do but once you choose to say no, and not go with a flow, that's when you begin to write your own story.

 

Why is it so hard to say No?

 Why do we have such a hard time saying No? Is it because we want to protect our relationships? While that's a big part of it, we even say yes to perfect strangers to whom we owe nothing. Why is that?

One reason can be because we want to appear helpful and cultivate the perfect "can-do" attitude. It's a trap. Our innate need to be helpful is the insidious seed for people-pleasing, even at a detriment to ourselves.

 Think about times when you have agreed to do something, be it in your professional or personal life, and later resented yourself or the person who asked you for the favor. How did that make you feel? Didn't you wish you could go back in time and tap into your right to say no?

 

How to say no politely.

 If a hard no is difficult to say, there are other ways to make your true feelings known. For example: "I choose not to," and " that will not work for me" are different ways to say "No" that is equally beneficial at getting the point across. In the end remember, you are simply exercising a basic human right. You don't even need to explain why you are saying no. No itself is a complete sentence and an explanation all wrapped up into one.